Rescuing Lonely Hearts One e-Mail at a Time
The numbers of online daters looking for love is increasing. Bringing with it the challenges of frustration and disenchantment with the online dating process. Most people are not meeting the right people or even worse, they’re not getting any results at all. Many are turning to Online Dating Coach, Chaszey Sandhriel.
“The number one reason why people are not getting results or at least the results they expected, is because they are not putting their most authentic Self into their profile. They withhold themselves or worse, lie, and then they wonder why their contradictory profile is giving them wishy-washy results.” Chaszey says. “Every successful results-driven online profile is packed with honesty, strength and the clear picture of who you are and who you truly want as a life partner.”
A successful profile can be put together remembering these three important steps:
1. A great screen name Many forget that screen names like “ServeThisGoddess,” “Stud4You,” or “BrokenHearted” may backfire big time. Don’t try to communicate too much and definitely don’t create screen names that allow the reader to read too much between the lines.
2. Choosing photos that work “People don’t realize that the main headshot is what many people base their decision on and based on this one picture some may never even look at the profile, so your main photo is the most important one,” says Chaszey. It’s amazing to see how many people put photos up wearing their sunglasses and baseball cap, covering just about anything important. This will result in many people never even opening up their profile. Your main photo should show your eyes and your face and you should not wear a hat, even if you’re bald. Photos that produce result show your eyes and face and you look into the camera. Photos should show you in a variety of settings, headshot, half body shot and full body shot. This is not the time to hide what you look like, this is the time to be honest.
3. Your profile Be concise, authentic and open when describing yourself. I have talked to many men who told me that once they went out on a first date, they discovered that the profile of the woman they went out with was actually written by a girlfriend, who meant well, I’m sure. However, it left these men wondering who they really were on a date with and they lost faith and trust. I cannot stress how important it is for you to get clear about who you are and for you to accurately state who you are and what makes you tick in your profile. You are not trying out for an essay contest, you are communicating to the world that you are ready to find your true love and you are calling him or her to you with your profile. This is the time to be downright honest with yourself and the world so that you have a chance to attract a person who knows who you are from the beginning.
4. Be clear when describing the partner you want to attract to you Most people are asking for someone with qualities that they themselves have not mastered yet. Your spouse just dumped you because you cheated and now you make it clear in your profile that you’re looking for someone honest and loyal. It’s a contradiction. Once you get clear with who you are and you’re able to truly look at every aspect of what has created you, then you can honestly and open-eyed look at the person you want to attract to yourself. Only when you can get crystal clear with who you are can you can ever clearer with whom you want.
Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.
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