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Despite the high 50% divorce rate in today’s society, marriage is still a high priority to most men and women overall. In fact according to a recent survey of twenty-somethings indicated that 94% of these young men and women wanted to get married someday. It is safe to say that most people go into marriage with good intentions of staying together forever for better or worse. However the interesting thing is that there is also a common trend among career moves and marriages.

Well, as you now know, love is not enough. If it were, then one out of every two marriages would not be ending in divorce. EVERYONE WAS IN LOVE IN THE BEGINNING! No one thinks they will have to learn how to save a marriage.

There are a great number of contributing factors as to why so many marriages ultimately end up in divorce court. These factors include things such as Abuse, abandonment, substance abuse, infidelity, financial stress or simply just down right irreconcilable differences.

Often times a woman who is dumped and faced with a divorce usually wants her husband back. She may be even devastated and feel lost and alone without him. Men who want out of a marriage tend to place all of the blame on the wife and make her feel that she isn’t what he wants because she doesn’t meet his needs. He may even tell her things like she is too controlling, too selfish, too fat, too thin, too this, too that etc.

There is really no such thing as a 100% flawless perfect marriage. In fact there hasn’t been one since the days of Adam and Eve. All marriages are destined to faces some challenges and adversity at some point over the years. However if two people still have the love and commitment to overcome the adversity, they can not only salvage the marriage but also build a stronger loving bond in the long run.

However there are also many cases when the marriage can actually be salvaged but yet the couple may experience an extreme case of communication breakdown and therefore give up and throw in the towel way too soon. The most important thing for a troubled marriage to survive is that both people have to want to see it through. Also both people have to be willing to work together and be willing to compromise. These two things are very important.

If you look for them, you will see that they were there all along, but perhaps you were so committed to the marriage and had so much trust in it and him or her that you never even noticed. Unless your spouse is willing to work on your marriage as much as you are, and work as hard to change a relationship that didn’t previously work, you then embark on what I call “Selling Your Soul”. This may include giving up who you really, really are.

Here is the real truth of the matter Even traditional marriage counseling only works effectively when both husband and wife are committed to saving the marriage. Communication is a two way street where both spouses need to listen and talk. This is so important because in most cases, all the unhappy marriage needs to get back on track is have problems aired out and talked over.

For the most part, most people tend to put your best foot forward to impress the person you are interested in as. Since putting your best foot forward initially is pretty much a courting ritual, therefore the average person rarely let all of their real self be known to the other before they are married.

Think about it for a minute

Keep in mind that there is a wealth of information available to help provide practical solutions to repairing a troubled marriage.Any marriage worth reviving is certainly worth going the extra mile. The reality is that depending on the circumstances, saving your marriage can be one of the hardest or easiest things to do. One slip up, and you could dig yourself into a deeper hole, leaving the success of your marriage hopeless. Proper guidance certainly helps prevent this mistake.

3. The third strategy is trying to change the other person by arguing, reasoning, trying to talk them into feeling different or doing different. That never works.

4. Pessimism. We become addicted to our pessimism which is also counter- productive.

2. The second strategy is to keep repeating to the other spouse the old cliche, “I love you.” That never works. 3. The third strategy is arguing, reasoning, trying to convince them into feeling or doing different. That never works. 4. Pessimism. This is a result of always expecting the worse and no improvement. . Remember after all marriage is actually a sacred institution. If both spouses truly want to find a way to refresh and save their marriage, they can find a way no matter how difficult it may seem. Remember any marriage worth maintaining is certainly worth going the extra mile. No marriage is perfect and it certainly takes work, compromise and of course the commitment to weather the storm.

2. The second strategy is to tell them over and over again, “I love you.” That never works.

3. The third strategy is arguing, reasoning, trying to talk them into feeling different or doing different. That never works.

It is safe to say that marriage is indeed an interesting dichotomy because it can be both the greatest and yet the most challenging experience in life. In other words it can be like heaven when everything is going great, but like hell when things are going bad.

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