Going on a first date? Do it the right way.
What should be the simple pleasure of getting to know another human being can sometimes buckle under the weight of unrealistic expectations and the baggage of previous relationships. Here are some tips to consider when dating:
A shared sense of humor is important. Try to bring laughter to the date. Try to get a laugh out of the guy. That way you know you’ve got something. If he doesn’t get your jokes what else is he going to “get” about you?
Be yourself. People sometimes try too hard to impress. If they just relax a little, the date will go better and they will not have to worry about any of those little embellishments backfiring later on. The worst thing people do on first dates is lie. They are trying to improve their status so you will be interested in them.
If you are meeting someone you know only through a personal ad or an online dating service be sure to go to a place with plenty of other people around. And do not blab out your whole life story on the first date. Keep it general: music, books, movies.
There is a difference between first dates and the first face-to-face contact with someone you connect with through a dating service or ad. That is a meeting to assess each other, not a date.
If you are comfortable and seem to be compatible set up a date to spend more time together. Remember that the first date is supposed to be fun. You are getting to know this person and he is getting to know you. It should not be something that feels like a meeting with your boss.
Look for something creative and make sure it allows you to interact. It will help if the activity relates to a shared interest, such as art or music.
The Number One mistake people make on first dates is to judge the other person too quickly and harshly. Always keep an open mind. There is so much to discover about a person.
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