Get Another Chance With Your Ex, Just Prove You Can Change
The first step to winning over an ex is to figure out why they dumped you in the first place. A lot of the time it was because your ex couldn’t (or didn’t want to) put up with certain things you did anymore.
If this applies to your break up, you need to accept this. You need to identify what those behaviours were and avoid them, permanently and for real. A superficial show verbal promises that “I’ve changed” is not enough for your ex.
For starters, your ex lover will never think you’re telling the truth. Let’s accept it, no one changes completely in one night. Second chance given to your ex, they need to belive that the change is real and lasting.
You must give your ex concrete evidence showing that you’re trying your hardest to make changes in yourself and to become a better partner in your relationship. For instance, reading books, researching for help online, taking classes or even therapy. You will only be able to do this if you are actually putting forth a concerted attempt to make a difference. You’ll be happy to do this, if you’re serious about wanting your ex back.
Another thing, should you be able to obtain an additional oppotunity via the simple appearance of chang,e it won’t be sufficient to hold it together. You ex will turn away from you again if the old problems come up again- and normally the problems do come back. They will feel tricked, betrayed and foolish. Again, I will be saying, “I want my ex back.” Of course you already had one opportunity, and you screwed it up royally.
There is a third reason, over and above getting a second chance with your ex, to make a genuine change: for your own sake. The emotions and behaviours that caused problems with your ex are likely to affect other aspects of your life too. For instance, jealousy stems from insecurity and low self-esteem which may, in a subtle way, be causing problems at work, or in relationships with friends and siblings.
By putting your own emotional needs first, you will end being a healthier and happier person, which will help you attract the right kind of person, someone who is far more likely to get a second chance with their ex, and get them back for keeps. Because these efforts aren’t simply part of a scheme to get another chance, your ex will have more respect for you and the lengths that you are going to.
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