Are You Trying To Make Sense Of Online Dating?
Do you ever realize that Online profiles begin with the word “I”? Even though you are the one who is longing for true love, the online dating process really should not be about you.
Sandhriel states: “Online Dating is not about the person posting the ad, but about the person they are looking for; this is called Compound Interest. You can achieve success when you ‘Pay it Forward.’”
“What do I have to pay forward?” you may wonder.
Let’s think about this for a minute. With more than 10 million people registered on Internet Dating sites, bringing in over $2 billion dollars per year, the likelihood that you’ll be spending more time weeding through profiles and rejecting people and getting rejected yourself, rather than dating Mr. or Mrs. Right. You can also look at it this way: once your hot and bubbling profile is public, you’ll spend most of your time glancing through other people’s profiles, only to formulate “thanks but no thanks” messages.
Meanwhile, and until you have found your “one and only,” focus on strengthening your own kindness by earning karma points. Every time you need to say “thank you but no thank you,” instead of hitting the ready-button, formulate an e-mail that flows with grace and kindness.
Chaszey says: “Whatever we give out comes back to us tenfold. What people forget is that while people should earn our trust, no one should have to earn our respect and our kindness. Each and every person deserves these free gifts from us, for the simple fact that we are fellow humans living on the same planet, enjoying the same sunlight and walking fairly similar journeys called life. And let’s recognize that everyone is looking for the exact same thing: Unconditional Love.”
It may take some time and willingness to send rejection e-mails to potential partners that show your effort, are filled with grace and show your kindness. Chaszey says: “Don’t underestimate how much your kind words are worth to the recipient. Not only may you mend a broken heart, but you will gain karma points that are subjected to compound interest on a whole new level. Your life can only change for the better. Maybe hard to explain, but worth the try.”
These karma points serve like a bonus to help you build a new character and create a stronger and kinder you so you can bring into your experience the person you truly deserve.
So before you hit that pre-programmed “thanks but no thanks” button, take a few minutes and read the other person’s profile anyway, and send them a response that is filled with your kindness, not because they deserve it, but because that’s who you are.
Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.
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