3 Ways Separation Can Help You Get Your Ex Back
I know it sounds completely opposite to what you expect would work for getting your ex back, but the truth is severing all contact with your ex for about a month can really help you get him back when that month is over. There are numerous reasons why this is so, and here are just a couple.
1) Being in each others’ faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it’s easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.
By the time the month is over, everyone’s temper should have cooled off, and some real thinking to have started. A calmer head and a willingness to work on things is far more likely, and far more beneficial to the process of fixing your relationship and getting back together.
2) Friction aside, being too much together after a breakup can also make it feel like nothing’s changed because of the breakup. Even if things are peaceful between you, still being together all the time cuts out a lot of the impact of being “separated.” Your ex won’t see the need to get back together, because he probably won’t get the full feeling that you ever really broke up.
It’s like the old expression “you don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone.” If you’re still there, he can’t miss you, and he won’t full understand what he’s missing out on by having broken up with you. If you’re still friendly after a breakup, there’s still something there that could be a seed for another shot…but if he never understands that he really doesn’t have you anymore, he won’t feel the need to take you back.
3) Being up in each others’ business, so to speak, tends to be a bit distracting and frustrating. It can be difficult to find the peace to really figure out what’s going on and what needs to be addressed if you’re going to pull off a reunion. Having a month apart from one another gives you ample opportunity to both heal your breakup pain and work out a plan for getting him back.
People in this situation can act really oddly, and to get the results you want you may not be able to just naturally come to the right choices. You have to have a plan, or you’re shooting in the dark and will probably end up hitting yourself in the foot. This freedom of time and space will let you reason out a plan that will actually work, rather than just doing whatever feels right (since it’s often actually the wrong idea).
I recommend this separation to anyone just out of a breakup who wants to get her ex back. The benefits far outweigh the loneliness you’ll feel, and think of how great it’ll be to be reunited with him in a stronger relationship than ever. This breakup can actually bring you closer together than before, if you deal with it properly. Hopefully, this article has helped you learn a little more about how to do that. Good luck!
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